Believing in Yourself.
What up, guys.
We hope you enjoyed that run of video blog posts we did in Macau. Unfortunately, from there on, it was all business, so we didn't have time to do more videos. We'd have loved to, simply because Hong Kong is so awesome. We're not talking about the ladies here, mind you (although they did play a big part ). The place itself is A-mazing. The people there are friendly, the shopping is great, and the view is breathtaking.
The good thing is, we have a backlog of videos that we'll be releasing in time to come. Some of them will be made private, in order to protect certain individuals. But most of them will be available to the public, as thanks for your support.
Our updates may be hitting you on a weekly basis, but we feel that it is simply not enough. Personally, I've come to learn quite a number of lessons in the past few months, and I want to share them with you guys; however, time is a factor. We have been working behind the scenes since we got back from our trip, and if you haven't noticed, we're going corporate in terms of training. Feel free to contact us if you feel like your company needs help. Just click on the 'Corporate Training' link above.
Having said that, today's post is Awareness-based. I figured this is a lesson any hustler-wannabe MUST know. And unfortunately for most of us, we lack a key figure in our lives who really gives us the lowdown on living an Awesome life.
This is something I had to learn myself as well. Sometimes I wish that I had a mentor earlier on in life who did not hold back on all the hardcore lessons, because it will only benefit eventually. One of them is Believing in Yourself. It may sound really simple and over-stated, but the truth is, people often hear this but never listen. Believing in Yourself is not about having a healthy amount of self-esteem. They are related, yes, but not the same.
It's about understanding that no matter where you are in your life, what you want for yourself is entirely valid, and that no one can take that away from you.
It's about knowing that, despite all your flaws and imperfections, you are who you are, and there is nothing wrong with that.
It's about believing that your opinions count for something, and that people should respect them, regardless of whether they agree with it or not.
I remember a few years back, I was having a discussion about the kind of girl I wanted in my life with someone in my extended family. Unfortunately, she and I couldn't agree that I “deserve” the type of girl I wanted. Fortunately for me, I was unfazed by what my relative thought of me. But at that moment, I thought about how someone with a weaker self-belief would react, and I could imagine it would have made that person doubt himself.
Anyone and everyone can doubt you, but you must NEVER doubt yourself.
Truth is, you're always gonna have doubters. I've had many in my life, and they've made me feel bad. I know how it feels to be shaken. But I've come to learn that my beliefs are valid, and that's all that matters. Whether you believe in yourself is what counts. If you don't, you're gonna be shaky everytime someone challenges you. How can you expect to live your life the way you want if you are shaken so easily?
Look, I'm not saying it's not normal to doubt yourself. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. People encounter self-doubt because they have a self-image of where they stand, and when they look to the external environment for evidence to validate that image, the image and evidence don't agree with each other.
In my opinion, self-doubt is good, because it gives you the opportunity to take a step back, self-reflect, and see the cause of it. Unfortunately, you are never gonna be able to run away from self-doubt completely. The people at the top suffer from it as well, so don't expect to eliminate it forever. What you need to know is that it is not an actual indication of your own abilities.
Here at Success Initiative, we believe that whatever you believe, you are right. Therefore, if you believe that you are not worth your value, you are right. Conversely, the same applies.
Unfortunately, there is no shortcut to success. Therefore, you will need to work for it. If you think your abilities are not up to scratch, then you'll need to up the ante and hustle. Results don't lie. They are the most tangible evidence you'll get. But in my experience, self-doubt has more to do with self-image than ability.
If that is the case, then go for the big E, that is, Experience. Lessons are best learnt through revelations, and you can only get that through experience. Forget about abilities, forget about self-beliefs, forget about achieving results. Go for the experience, and the realisation will naturally happen. It may take a while, but when it happens, the realisation will be heart-felt. And anything that's heart-felt will never be forgotten.
At the end of the day, I sincerely feel that Believing in Yourself is the first step towards success. If you don't have that basic self-belief, your actions will forever work to your disadvantage. You may have the perfect gameplan, the perfect strategy, or the perfect solution, but without that confidence in your own self, you'll subconsciously sabotage your own efforts. People always blame circumstance for their failures, but what they fail to recognise is that the root cause lies in their own belief system, rather than external factors.